Author Archives: Howard Scott Warshaw

The Silicon Valley Therapist series #01

Posted on April 6, 2017 by Howard Scott Warshaw

This is my first article for LinkedIn on new perspectives for life in Silicon Valley: As A Therapist In Silicon Valley I Believe Our Diversity Is An Illusion  

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How To Choose A Therapist

Posted on January 28, 2016 by Howard Scott Warshaw

Therapy is a blind item. It’s hard to tell what you’ll get until you try it. Also, therapy is different with each therapist. For any person there may be lots of therapists who can help, but each of these therapists … Continue reading →

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What’s Therapy About?

Posted on January 28, 2016 by Howard Scott Warshaw

At times we all find ourselves in difficult or absurd circumstances. This is simply the product of seeking satisfaction while working our way down the path of life. This does not make us ridiculous or hopeless, it makes us human. … Continue reading →

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The Trip From A to B

Posted on December 23, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

A person leaves point A, travels a bit and winds up at point B. That’s what we see. But if we look a little deeper, this journey represents two very different trips. In the first, the person is hanging out in A, … Continue reading →

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Quote: Therapeutic Truth

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“You can be kind with the truth or blunt with the facts.”  -Ruth A. Auten, LMFT Here’s the great thing about the truth: Everybody’s got one. I don’t put much effort into convincing people about some objective truth. They are more inclined … Continue reading →

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The Therapist’s Job

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“What do you do?” is a question I hear from time to time. What is the job of the psychotherapist? It’s a reasonable question. Here’s one way I see it: When someone feels stuck, I create opportunities for change. I do this … Continue reading →

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Quote: Solving Problems

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“We become more effective problem solvers when we work less on our problems and more on ourselves.”  -HSW Problem solving isn’t so much about defeating issues as it is about seeing through them. To do this we need to take the most advantageous … Continue reading →

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The Breaks

Posted on November 2, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

Therapy is all about the breaks: Breakdowns and Breakthroughs. Breakdowns lead us into therapy and Breakthroughs get us out. Breakdowns are simply moments when I realize what I’m doing isn’t working and it’s clear something must change. I don’t mean just … Continue reading →

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Fighting Over Small Things

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

A lot of couples come to therapy citing a series of squabbles over petty issues. Here’s the first thing I tell them: There are no fights over small things. All fights are about big things. We blame them on small … Continue reading →

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Finding The “Up” in Break-Up

Posted on August 18, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

My partner dumped me. Now I’m consumed with ugly feelings of rejection. No one needs to tell us being rejected by a romantic partner is bad, it’s written into our DNA. I’m severed from the herd, left to fend for myself in a hostile … Continue reading →

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