Category Archives: Perspectives

Therapy During COVID-19

Posted on May 14, 2020 by Howard Scott Warshaw

To me, therapy is a very intimate activity. Now, in the age of unforeseen consequences, I’m wondering how attempts to sterilize the environment will impact the intimacy of the exchange. There is no doubt that online sessions are less intimate … Continue reading →

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The Silicon Valley Therapist series #4

Posted on August 17, 2018 by Howard Scott Warshaw

I created one of the biggest failures of my generation. Here’s what I learned: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/coming-back-from-one-greatest-failures-my-generation-warshaw/  

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The Trip From A to B

Posted on December 23, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

A person leaves point A, travels a bit and winds up at point B. That’s what we see. But if we look a little deeper, this journey represents two very different trips. In the first, the person is hanging out in A, … Continue reading →

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Quote: Therapeutic Truth

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“You can be kind with the truth or blunt with the facts.”  -Ruth A. Auten, LMFT Here’s the great thing about the truth: Everybody’s got one. I don’t put much effort into convincing people about some objective truth. They are more inclined … Continue reading →

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The Therapist’s Job

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“What do you do?” is a question I hear from time to time. What is the job of the psychotherapist? It’s a reasonable question. Here’s one way I see it: When someone feels stuck, I create opportunities for change. I do this … Continue reading →

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Quote: Solving Problems

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

“We become more effective problem solvers when we work less on our problems and more on ourselves.”  -HSW Problem solving isn’t so much about defeating issues as it is about seeing through them. To do this we need to take the most advantageous … Continue reading →

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The Breaks

Posted on November 2, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

Therapy is all about the breaks: Breakdowns and Breakthroughs. Breakdowns lead us into therapy and Breakthroughs get us out. Breakdowns are simply moments when I realize what I’m doing isn’t working and it’s clear something must change. I don’t mean just … Continue reading →

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Fighting Over Small Things

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

A lot of couples come to therapy citing a series of squabbles over petty issues. Here’s the first thing I tell them: There are no fights over small things. All fights are about big things. We blame them on small … Continue reading →

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The Cost of Cynicism

Posted on February 12, 2015 by Howard Scott Warshaw

Do you know this phrase?: “Those who can, do. Those who can’t, teach.” Of course you do. Most of us know this clever quip which demeans a profession crucial to the continuance of our society, thereby meeting the standard for … Continue reading →

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The Planting Season

Posted on December 27, 2014 by Howard Scott Warshaw

‘Tis the season. The one with many names. Most people call it the holiday season, but how you refer to the time between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day depends on who you are and what you do. For consumers it’s … Continue reading →

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